“It’s Britney Bitch”.

How many songs in today’s top 40 have the word, “Bitch” in it?  Both male and female use this to describe a woman.  It’s a common phrase used by women today to reference one another.  “Where my bitches at?!”

I’m sorry if you find the word offensive.  I personally do as well.  It’s repulsive.  I promise you I have a point with all this.  If the word offends you so much that you can’t get the point of the blog, I encourage you to close this window now.

I met with Matt Baden from ACT Alberta, an organization that works to combat trafficking in Alberta.  I was asking him what are some of the root causes that would get girls in my city involved in trafficking (YES, it’s happening in your city – don’t be fooled).  He stated that it stems from many roots, roots as simple as girls not knowing what a healthy relationship looks like.  She meets a man who will wine, dine and woo her.  He’ll spoil her and once he’s reeled her in, he’ll expect to be paid back.  She becomes a sexual servant whom he serves to his friends and clients.  A recent incident of this was just revealed in my city of Calgary just last week.  You can read about it here.

Another cause that is indirectly related is the glorification of women being sexual objects as well as taking on demeaning labels.  Labels such as “bitch”.  If you label yourself a “bitch”, you’ll buy into it.  The more you buy into it, the more vulnerable you are to those who prey on the weak.  On the other hand, if you label yourself worthy, courageous and valuable, you’ll buy into that as well.  Unfortunately, pop culture has made “bitch” appealing.

A couple of months ago, I stumbled across this song called “Bitch Bad” by Lupe Fiasco.  The words gripped my heart.  I feel he has captured the heart of the problem.

Now imagine there’s a shawty, maybe five maybe four
Ridin’ ’round with his mama listening to the radio
And a song comes on and a not far off from being born
Doesn’t know the difference between right and wrong
Now I ain’t trying to make it too complex
But let’s just say shawty has an undeveloped context
About the perception of women these days
His mama sings along and this what she says
“Niggas I’m a bad bitch, and I’m bad bitch
far above average”
And maybe other rhyming words like cabbage and savage
And baby carriage and other things that match it
Couple of things that are happenin’ here
First he’s relatin’ the word “bitch” with his mama, comma
And because she’s relatin’ to herself, his most important source of help,
And mental health, he may skew respect for dishonor

Yeah, now imagine a group of little girls nine through twelve

On the internet watchin’ videos listenin’ to songs by themselves
It doesn’t really matter if they have parental clearance
They understand the internet better than their parents
Now being the interent, the content’s probably uncensored
They’re young, so they’re maleable and probably unmentored
A complicated combination, maybe with no relevance
Until that intelligence meets their favorite singer’s preference
“Bad bitches, bad bitches, bad bitches
That’s all I want and all I like in life is bad bitches, bad bitches”
Now let’s say that they less concerned with him
And more with the video girl acquiescent to his whims
Ah, the plot thickens
High heels, long hair, fat booty, slim
Reality check, I’m not trippin’
They don’t see a paid actress, just what makes a bad bitch

Disclaimer: This rhymer, Lupe’s not usin’ bitch as a lesson

But as a psychological weapon
To set in your mind and really mess with your conceptions
Discretions, reflections, it’s clever misdirection
Cause, while I was rappin’ they was growin’ up fast
Nobody stepped in to ever slow ‘em up, gasp
Sure enough, in this little world
The little boy meets one of those little girls
And he thinks she a bad bitch and she thinks she a bad bitch
He thinks disrespectfully, she thinks of that sexually
She got the wrong idea, he don’t wanna *uck her
He thinks she’s bad at being a bitch like his mother
Momma never dress like that, come out the house, hot mess like that
Ass, titties, dress like that
All out to impress like that
Just like that, you see the fruit of the confusion
He caught in a reality, she caught in an illusion
Bad mean good to her, she really nice and smart
But bad mean bad to him, bitch don’t play your part
But bitch still bad to her if you say it the wrong way
But she think she a bitch, what a double entendre

If you can handle it, he did a brilliant music video to this which I feel expresses the issue well.  You can view it here.

I hope you can get past the language to see the heart of the matter: More than ever, we need to speak life, value, and purpose into our young girls today.  We need to get them back to what makes a woman a lady.  I would call this “trafficking prevention.  If it’s hard to believe that some young lady would fall for a pimp disguised as a man, all you need to do is listen to what girls are listening to today, watch what they’re watching and you’ll quickly see that our culture is constantly demeaning their purpose and reducing them to “bitch”.

I know it breaks the Creator’s heart.  Time to create a new culture of women.  That starts with you and I today and being intentional with investing into their lives.  We need to start examining the value of words we hear and images we see.  Get past the beat and don’t fall for the junk that’s being thrown at us.