As I write this blog, I can’t help but be filled with deep-gut emotion. This is very dear to my heart. Explains why I read Jennifer Grant’s book, “Love You More” in one day.
A chinese proverb says, “An invisible red thread connects those who are destined to meet regardless of time, place or circumstance. The thread may stretch or tangle, but it will never break.”
When I read that in Jennifer’s book, it moved my soul. What a beautiful picture of what adoption is. Jennifer goes on to write: “I believe God nudges us toward the people with whom we’re meant to share our lives.” I loved the book “Love You More” because it clarified adoption to me. When I mention our desire to adopt one day, the response is very often, “Oh, we’d love to do that too, but……” The “but” is followed by:
- we just can’t afford it
- my husband really isn’t interested
- I’m not sure I could handle it
- I’m not sure how our kids would manage
I hope I wasn’t giving someone the impression that to not adopt means they have no compassion. In fact, Jennifer talks very candidly about motivations to adopt and the only one that is a real reason to follow through;
“I learn of people who have an almost missionary zeal about adoption, but truly don’t seem enthusiastic about loving and parenting a child”. That’s it. There’s a child missing from your family you’re crying out to raise. It’s a void in your family you cannot ignore…… someone is supposed to be there.
“Adoption is to grow your family, not save the world.” (Jennifer Grant) It’s that invisible red thread leading you towards the one who was meant to hold the other end. You KNOW when someone’s missing. If that’s you, don’t fight it. Don’t be afraid any longer. Perhaps its time to stop ignoring the fighting feeling that there is someone on the end of your thread?
Regardless of whether you ever adopt an orphan into your family or not, remember the invisible red thread. Remember your own orphanhood. Remember the time you were on the other end of the thread alone and waiting until one day He found you. Remember when He gently pulled the thread bringing you close to Him. Remember the pain He took you from. Remember the family He invited you into. Tap into those times to keep compassion alive in your heart.
You haven’t experienced this? Well, perhaps its time to find the One who’s been on the other end of your invisible red thread. He’s had you picked out for a long time.
“Is that part of the divine plan of adoption? Not only to give permanent, loving families to orphaned children and to answer the prayers of the childless but to link those who have much with those who do not have enough? To make us all, truly, extended family?” (from the book Love You More)
You can check out Jennifer’s book by clicking here. I can’t say enough wonderful things about it. If you’re thinking of adoption, or just love an inspiring, true story, it’s a great read.