I am offering a challenge to families to make this Christmas different than any other we’ve experienced. What do we normally do on Christmas? We gather with family, we eat (and eat, and eat), we have more presents than we know what to do with. Some don’t have this, which is unfortunate and we need to remember them.
A couple of years ago, I looked around at all of the effort we put into Christmas and wondered how different it would be if we experienced the holidays with our values at the centre? We started with our family sitting down and figuring out what we value. Our kids of course said, “VIDEO GAMES”, but as we dug deeper we discovered our values as a family were:
Travel, Generosity, Meaningful connection through experiences
No mention of “stuff” at all.
What if this year you got real about really matters to you and allowed your Christmas season to reflect that?
How do you discover what you value as a family? Here are three easy questions to get you started and to experience a more meaningful holiday together.
What do we naturally spend a lot of time doing without thinking?
If you ask your kids what they value, most of the time they will have no idea. You need to be able to get them to dig deep under the surface to find real values. Starting with what you naturally do as a family without thinking is a great place to start. For my boys, of course video games came up. I didn’t scratch that, I kept it on the list but dug a little deeper. My boys like video games because they value down time. They don’t want to always be on the go. For them, playing video games is a chance to unwind.
For my husband and I, that’s downtime as well. We don’t like being too busy. My hubby and I love reading or watching a really good movie.
What about your family? What do you spend a lot of time doing without thinking? That may give you some clues to a value.
What is most important to us as a family?
For my family, generosity came up as well as travel. We decided to stop talking about what is important and put action to our words. We decided to make generosity and travel a priority in our finances to be a good example to our children about living on purpose. Last year we travelled to 9 different places! Our youngest son loves to search up Air BnB’s around the world for us. We live on a modest budget, which really showed us that it doesn’t matter how much money you make. If you value it, you can make it happen. If you are interested in travel on a budget, you can read my past blog post on that here.
If we had no limitations, how would we choose to live?
Don’t shut any idea down at this point. It’s ok to dream. Sometimes what our children share as a response to this question will surprise us! Imagine you decided to become intentional towards seeing this dream happen? It is more possible than you think! If you’re feeling really brave, go through your visa statement and circle everything that isn’t connected to your values. Take a good look at what you’ve circled and how many are circled. This exercise is a good heart thermometer on whether you are really living your dreams. See what you’re spending your money on that is robbing you of what really means something to you and make a plan of action to start spending your money where your values are.
Are you ready to take the challenge? I would love to hear what your family comes up with and what actions you’ll take this holiday to make it happen. Email me here. I would love to hear!
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